Most importantly we need to make sure that our convictions are shaped by scripture—not culture, church culture or my books.
One of my main concerns in my church or any other church is that there be no disunity among Christians over issues of dating and courtship.
We need to learn to hold our own convictions on this matter with charity.
In 2009 he wrote an article titled “What I’ve Learned Since I Kissed Dating Goodbye” and here he said he stands by the basic message of the book: that short-term romantic attachments can be a big distraction from serving God—especially for teenagers.
However, he also explained how his book had proven divisive in some contexts: I’ve also seen that a legalistic application of these ideas can be unhelpful, too.
He does not describe dating as a model that is necessarily sinful, but as a lesser option than courtship.